Conflict

Choosing To Be Outside Your Comfort Zone

by February 17, 2014

One of the activities that I have continuously enjoyed over the years is cycling.  Last year I got a bit more serious and started spinning at my gym in preparation for three big rides to be completed over the summer of 2013.  Given how much […]

Forgiveness Doesn’t Excuse Their Behavior. Forgiveness Prevents Their Behavior From Destroying Your Heart. Part 2

by January 12, 2014

Forgiveness Doesn’t Excuse Their Behavior. Forgiveness Prevents Their Behavior From Destroying Your Heart. Part 2 In my previous post we were left with a conundrum.  We are exploring two scenarios of stuck conflict and damaged relationships.  The conclusion we seem to have reached is that […]

Forgiveness Doesn’t Excuse Their Behavior. Forgiveness Prevents Their Behavior From Destroying Your Heart. Part 1

by January 12, 2014

Forgiveness Doesn’t Excuse Their Behavior. Forgiveness Prevents Their Behavior From Destroying Your Heart. Part 1  I recently came across this quote on a friends Facebook page. It brings me back, once again, to the challenge of forgiveness.   A couple of insights are emerging for me: […]

Forgiveness? Okay, Say More About That

by October 15, 2013

Completion is about leaving burdensome energy behind, learning what there was to learn from an event/situation/relationship, and being able to move into the next moment from a clear, neutral, non-reactive place.  Completion is ultimately an act of declaration that is based on forgiveness. Completion is […]

Expectations Unmet? – Choose Forgiveness

by October 04, 2013

This has been an interesting past couple weeks.  I have spent much of my time with people experiencing serious conflict in both their personal and professional lives.  Now you might be thinking, “ Well yeah, that’s what you do.  That’s the business you are in.  […]

Picking up Where I Left Off

by September 27, 2013

It has been far to long since I sat down to share some thoughts about my work.  Well, as they say, the best laid plans.  Actually I have been doing quite a bit of writing.  A colleague and I are finalizing a three-credit online course […]

Redefining our Relationship to Conflict: Shifting from Doing to Being

In my most recent post I shared some emerging thoughts on the notion of redefining our relationship with conflict.  I continue to be engaged by this challenge, as I am daily reminded of the approach/avoidance relationship many have with conflict.  I encounter so many in […]

Redefining our Relationship to Conflict

by October 10, 2012

Redefining our Relationship to Conflict I have spent the past 20+ years engaged in teaching people how to navigate conflict.  I started in the early 90’s teaching Basic Mediation.  I continue to this day offering multiple classes and seminars on skills and strategies for effectively […]

So, What is it you do . . .?

by September 06, 2012

When I first entered the field of Alternative Dispute Resolution in the late 80’s I envisioned myself being a Mediator and facilitating a process called Mediation.  My colleagues and I who entered the field at that time were passionate about this emerging work and wanted […]